it's stupid, but it makes me mad
Aug. 29th, 2005 12:41 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
etoilineI'm sorry. This is a rant, but also a plea for help. How can I manage this?
Before I left to take things home to my parents (which they had nicely brought over yesterday for my birthday party) my new roommate said she was thinking about moving her newly-purchased futon into its (supposed) proper place in the sunroom and if I thought the table that currently occupies the space would now fit in the kitchen. I somewhat offhandedly said it might, but it was large and heavy and might not fit in the space next to the fridge. I left, and came back to boxes in the living room. I will admit I was probably taking up more space than I should have in said sunroom for storage, but a) I have a smaller closet, b) have lived here longer so I have more stuff, and c) there is no storage in the apartment. It was at least nicely covered up by some celtic=print sheets.
Call me conservative (in this, anyway, never politics) but I don't especially like it when the stuff that I have had for a few years here is suddenly moved about with no input from me. Is this stupid? It's not pleasant to come home to something totally different. Granted, she had asked me to clean out the space before. Yes, I feel bad about this. But I feel like I have rather a good excuse in the whole studying-for-the-MCAT, planning-and-having-a-birthday-party way. Maybe it wasn't the first thing on my mind, but it was a possibility...she had all day to do this but she waited until I left to ask. Sigh. And I actually forgot something that my parents had brought over: a folding table that is normally part of my mother's art booth display. Since there is a big show this coming weekend, she obviously needs it. Well, in place of the big table that had formally resided in the sunroom and now is blocking my "pantry" shelf in the kitchen (seriously, if I want to get anything, I will have to crawl under the table) was my mom's table. With one of the aforementioned sheets on it, and my printer and other things...so I pulled that all off and set up the former kitchen table in the sunroom, which I'm at now. Since the kitchen floor is a little slanted, the table soesn't exactly set up level anymore, not helped by the fact that for a good part of a year only half of it held a good amount of alcohol (now on the counter). I guess I can move my pantry shelf to the other wall, near the trashcan, but the very thought of it being by the trash can sort of makes me sick. I mean, food items near the can is not a good idea.
My roommate said maybe I can fold up or flatten the boxes I had out in the room. Yes, I could, but call me crazy, I don't want to have to tape them up again when I need them. Admittedly some of them can be trashed and I will do so later. But she's just eliminated all extra storage. I had no idea when I agreed to her getting a futon that it would be such a hassle. It's not the first time I came home to a "renovated" apartment...the week before the MCAT she changed my study area around and rearranged the furniture in the living room when I left one evening (to go to my parents' place for dinner, natch). I didn't complain then because it was a good change, just unexpected. She 'got bored.'
Can any of you help me cope with this? I don't like being forced into cleaning. Alright, alright, it's a good idea to clean all the time. But I also don't like being surprised by this. I just wish I could handle it, because I don't know how to talk to her about it. I don't want to sound rude, but she is moving my stuff (she actually threw away some items I wanted to keep when she cleared off the old kitchen table) and it's frustrating. I don't know if I could do it well without losing my temper. I keep saying, she's new, she wants to have stuff the way she likes it too, having a roommate is about compromise, but dammit, it's my apartment too. At least ask first. Any hints?
By the way, I'm 25 now.
Before I left to take things home to my parents (which they had nicely brought over yesterday for my birthday party) my new roommate said she was thinking about moving her newly-purchased futon into its (supposed) proper place in the sunroom and if I thought the table that currently occupies the space would now fit in the kitchen. I somewhat offhandedly said it might, but it was large and heavy and might not fit in the space next to the fridge. I left, and came back to boxes in the living room. I will admit I was probably taking up more space than I should have in said sunroom for storage, but a) I have a smaller closet, b) have lived here longer so I have more stuff, and c) there is no storage in the apartment. It was at least nicely covered up by some celtic=print sheets.
Call me conservative (in this, anyway, never politics) but I don't especially like it when the stuff that I have had for a few years here is suddenly moved about with no input from me. Is this stupid? It's not pleasant to come home to something totally different. Granted, she had asked me to clean out the space before. Yes, I feel bad about this. But I feel like I have rather a good excuse in the whole studying-for-the-MCAT, planning-and-having-a-birthday-party way. Maybe it wasn't the first thing on my mind, but it was a possibility...she had all day to do this but she waited until I left to ask. Sigh. And I actually forgot something that my parents had brought over: a folding table that is normally part of my mother's art booth display. Since there is a big show this coming weekend, she obviously needs it. Well, in place of the big table that had formally resided in the sunroom and now is blocking my "pantry" shelf in the kitchen (seriously, if I want to get anything, I will have to crawl under the table) was my mom's table. With one of the aforementioned sheets on it, and my printer and other things...so I pulled that all off and set up the former kitchen table in the sunroom, which I'm at now. Since the kitchen floor is a little slanted, the table soesn't exactly set up level anymore, not helped by the fact that for a good part of a year only half of it held a good amount of alcohol (now on the counter). I guess I can move my pantry shelf to the other wall, near the trashcan, but the very thought of it being by the trash can sort of makes me sick. I mean, food items near the can is not a good idea.
My roommate said maybe I can fold up or flatten the boxes I had out in the room. Yes, I could, but call me crazy, I don't want to have to tape them up again when I need them. Admittedly some of them can be trashed and I will do so later. But she's just eliminated all extra storage. I had no idea when I agreed to her getting a futon that it would be such a hassle. It's not the first time I came home to a "renovated" apartment...the week before the MCAT she changed my study area around and rearranged the furniture in the living room when I left one evening (to go to my parents' place for dinner, natch). I didn't complain then because it was a good change, just unexpected. She 'got bored.'
Can any of you help me cope with this? I don't like being forced into cleaning. Alright, alright, it's a good idea to clean all the time. But I also don't like being surprised by this. I just wish I could handle it, because I don't know how to talk to her about it. I don't want to sound rude, but she is moving my stuff (she actually threw away some items I wanted to keep when she cleared off the old kitchen table) and it's frustrating. I don't know if I could do it well without losing my temper. I keep saying, she's new, she wants to have stuff the way she likes it too, having a roommate is about compromise, but dammit, it's my apartment too. At least ask first. Any hints?
By the way, I'm 25 now.
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Date: 2005-08-29 05:46 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2005-08-29 06:34 am (UTC)No, youre not being stupid.
Ive never lived with anyone other than the parentals though, so no helpful hints from me. Talking seems like a good idea though.
PS. I really like your mums stuff.
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Date: 2005-08-30 04:26 am (UTC)And I'm sorry I'm late. Midterms got in the way. Happy birthday *hug*
Alex says...
Date: 2005-08-30 04:32 am (UTC)